Do you know your love language? In today’s article, we are going to talk about how to know your love language. But before we get into it, lets first find out what love languages are. I am sure you’ve heard people talking about love languages. I am also sure you have heard of 5 languages of love. According to Dr. Chapman, the author of 5 languages of love, acts of service, words of affirmation, gifts, physical touch, and quality time together, are the languages of love.
Although you will hear many people talking about this topic, and recommending books and masterclasses, with the relationship gurus trying to tell you what your love language is. The truth is that only you can identify your love language, and to be honest, some people can be quite strange when it comes to love language. As you are going to find out in this article, some people feel paying bills is a love language.
I have been speaking to some friends in preparation for this article and I have learned some really interesting things. OK, before I dish out what I have learned, let me start by talking about myself and what my love language is, and how I made the mistake of thinking I had a different love language. Let me explain. When I was dating, I saw many couples walking holding hands.
How To Know Your Love Language If You Are Not Into PDA Or Are Not Sure, Don’t List It On Your Dating Profile
That looked really nice and romantic and since I had never dated someone who wanted to hold my hand in public, I decided to add that on my online dating profile. I said I was looking for someone who likes showing affection in public, someone who would hold my hand as we walk. I must admit that was a big mistake lol.
When setting up your online dating profile, you need to be careful about what you write and you need to make sure that what you say is the truth and the things you list as your likes, you really are being truthful. I was not sure if I liked the whole hold hand in public thing because I had not experienced it in the past. And now I have to live with it because I can’t turn around and say I don’t like it lol
Be Very Clear And Honest On Your Online Dating Profile
If someone really likes you, they will read every word you write and they will take to heart the things you say you like, then they will see if you share things in common, and then they will contact you.
My love language is very simple, I like the peace of mind, I like to be left alone when I need some alone time, I like to just cuddle with no hidden agenda lol and I love to see my guy putting effort to help around the house. I also believe in actions speaking louder than words. I also feel loved when I see that the things I say are being taken seriously, and my opinions are being respected.
My love language also consists of, my guy being able to see when he has wronged me and being able to acknowledge his mistake and apologizing to me, which makes me feel loved and appreciated. So in other words, I really don’t care so much about cheap words, I want to see actions lol.
Some Women Say Gifts, And More Gifts, That’s Their Love Language
OK, now I am going to share some of the things I have learned from talking to other women. The common thing that I heard a lot was gifts, lots of gifts, expensive gifts lol jewelry, clothes, handbags, shoes, flowers, expensive holidays, etc. One lady told me that as long as the bills are taken care of, and she gets all she needs in terms of gifts, then she feels loved.
There are others who felt loved if the guy would get involved in taking care of the children and helping around the house. Others want flowers and for the husbands/boyfriends, to remember birthdays, anniversaries, and other important days like Valentine’s day, and to be generous with compliments.
And then, of course, there are those who want to walk hand in hand and do all sorts of things in public lol romance was also mentioned a lot, long walks, candlelight dinners, whispering of sweet nothings, and lots of what comes afterward lol.
So How Do You Recognize Your Love Language?
It’s easy, you need to identify what makes you feel loved. It could be little things, what is it that really makes you feel that your husband/boyfriend, loves and cares deeply about you? is it that text he sends you in the middle of the day just to check if you are having a good day? or is it when he sits with you through those Hallmark or Lifetime movies that we girls love to watch and the guys hate? lol
My husband would never sit and watch a Lifetime movie with me lol but that’s OK. So what is it that makes you think hmm he really is in love with me? Is it the fact that on weekends he prepares Breakfast for the family and lets you sleep a little longer?
The truth of the matter is, people are quite strange when it comes to love language, what may seem like a little thing, could be the one thing that makes one feel really loved and appreciated.
A friend of mine shared a very interesting story with me, her husband is one of those husbands who is always doing big things, like giving expensive gifts, taking the family to exotic destinations for holidays each year, but she told me all that is not what makes her feel loved, she said that what really makes her feel loved, is when they are just siting quietly just the two of them enjoying the evening and he offers to make her a bowl of fruit salad.
So what I am trying to say is, only you can identify what really makes you feel loved.
Love language is very complicated and only you can for sure say what really makes you feel loved, appreciated, and happy in your relationship. I have shared with you, a few ideas, and now I would love to hear from you. What is your love language? what makes you get that feeling?
Please share your thoughts and ideas down below, lets keep this conversation going.
I hope you have enjoyed today’s article.
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