HOW TO HANDLE A LONG DISTANCE RELATIONSHIP
Today we are going to look at how to handle a long distance relationship. Being in a longdistance relationship is not easy, because of the obvious reasons, so it does get frustrating and its very easy to lose sight of what is important. what is important is that you have found someone with whom you plan to have a future together so keep your eye on the prize.
Its up to you and your partner to make things work, the first thing you need to do is to open all lines of communication, because you really want to avoid any kind of small misunderstandings, you don’t want to spend a lot of time fighting via text, those kinds of fights are not healthy at all.
So today I am going to give you tips that will help you avoid those unnecessary fights. Before we get into it let me just say that online fights between couples can get ugly very quickly and both parties end up saying things that they really never meant to say, and the problem with that is, all the things you say especially via text or emails, they are in record.
Which means, they might pop up again during another future fight, OK I know we as women don’t need the text or email to remember, because by default we remember everything and unfortunately we remember all the bad things our partner has done or said over the years. I think guys are a bit better at forgetting bad things unless they have them on email or text.
I will give you an example of women remembering bad things with myself, I can remember a big argument my husband and I had 5 years ago, I remember exactly what he said, what I was wearing, what he was wearing and what we had for dinner that night, hell I even remember, what music was playing on the radio. And yes I also remember the horrible things I said too.
Anyway, lets get into the article and the tips to avoid fights when in an online long distance relationship.
Be patient
First of all if you are in a long distance relationship, chances are that you are involved with a person to whom English is not their first language, so you need to understand their way of speaking, because sometimes one might sound rude on a written word but maybe its because their understanding of the English language is not so good, or maybe in their native language, when translated to English things might take a different meaning, So tip number one is to be patient and try to understand what your partner is saying.
Communication, be open at all times unless you are planing a surprise
The next tip is the most important, be open about your plans, don’t wait for your partner to ask you what you are up to, because that’s how fights start, an innocent question about what you are doing could bring up some misunderstandings, so to avoid this, be open about your goings and comings and if there is a change of plan, be sure to let your partner know, it doesn’t matter that he/she is in a different country, just treat your relationship as if you were living together, that way when the time comes and you can be together, things will be fine because you are already used to letting them know where you are and what you are doing.
Another helpful tip is not to say negative things to your friends about your partner especially when you’ve had a fight with your partner, remember, some people don’t consider an online relationship a serious relationship and if your friends fall in that category, they might start planting doubts in your mind.
Don’t air your dirty linen in social media
Do not have your fights on social media, if you are having a disagreement, do it via email but via phone call or skype is better, but never on social media. in my future post about visa application I will tell you why its very important you keep your fights off social media, actually I think you should’t have serious fights by email either, you really don’t want those on record especially since you don’t know what will be demanded during visa applications so strict your fights to phone calls if you can.
Another tip that will be very helpful, is to make sure that both of you have contacts to other person in your lives who could inform your partner if something bad happens, I mean lets hope nothing will happen but if you have an accident and are not able to communicate with your partner, its good to have someone who will communicate with them and tell them what’s going on.
Snail mail is your friend
One final tip, send each other snail mail, its good to have something physical to hold on to, something your partner has handled, send cards, letters and packages if you can, these kinds of mails are also going to help you a lot in your visa application trust me, so save all the envelopes and the letters, I will tell you why in my post about visa application.
I hope you have found this post helpful, if you have questions or comments please leave them below and I will be more than happy to answer you.
Thank you so much for your time
Rose
