Today we are going to talk about dating tips for women, in this article, I am going to give you tips that could make your online dating easier, especially if you are dealing with trust issues.
Dating tips for women, and you find yourself in the dating scene and more specifically, online dating, things could get a little complicated. Most people by the time they are over 40 you probably have gone through some kind of heartbreak and so it becomes very difficult to trust people.
This can make online dating very hard because, being online and not being able to drive by someone’s house to see what they are up to, makes things complicated because you just have to take their word.
Let me introduce You To online Dating
But before we get into that, let me first familiarize you with the world of online dating, because it could be that it’s been a while since the last time you dated, in online dating there is something called ghosting, now before you contact your local priest for an exorcism session, let me explain.
Ghosting is not a case where someone sends you evil spirits to terrorize you, it’s actually a term used to describe a situation where someone disappears on you after being in contact with them for a while then suddenly they block you on social media and block your calls.
Although I know it hurts when you get ghosted, that person was probably not worth your time anyway, he is a coward who couldn’t be decent and respectful enough to tell you that things were not working out between the both of you, or just admit that he found someone else.
Catfish, this is a form of scam where someone makes you believe they are one thing when it’s not true, catfishing happens a lot in dating site, one case I saw on TV where a lady was led to believe that she was in love with a military guy who was stuck somewhere in a foreign country and was trying to come home, so the lady was sending a lot of money to her military lover to help him get home so they could marry.
So it turned out that it was someone who had stolen some photos on social media and had used those photos to create a fake profile on a dating site, to scam unsuspecting women. So be very careful and always ask to talk to people you are interested in on Skype or other video call services.
Let’s get into dating tips for women how to trust again
Anyway, let’s continue with dating tips for women over 40, if you have been hurt, it’s hard to trust again.
My first tip is to distance that person you are dating from the person who did you wrong, trust me I learned this the hard way, you need to judge a person based on their behavior but not based on the behavior of your ex. I lost relationships that could have potentially developed to something good, just by miss judging people.
Next tip, if you have gone through divorce or break up, give yourself time to grieve before considering any type of dating, the reason for this is because you need to give yourself what I call cleansing period, take time to examine your situation, what went wrong, what your contribution was toward the break up or divorce, and then take time to heal, meditate, pray, cry, break something every now and then, go to therapy until you are fully healed.
After you have healed, pick yourself up, if you can afford it, change your wardrobe, get a new hairstyle, then you can start considering dating, create a profile on a dating website, and take things slow.
But how do you learn to trust again especially if you were betrayed in your past relationship? Let’s see how you can overcome the fear of being heartbroken again.
Dating Tips For Women You need to make a choice to trust someone
I think the best you can do is take one step at a time, also I think trusting someone, really depends on your decision, if you decide to trust someone, you will, give them benefit of doubt and remember, they are innocent until proven guilty. That been said, try to refrain from looking for trouble, try not to be overly suspicious.
When you find someone you think could be a potential partner, find the right time to mention to them that you’ve been hurt in the past, this will help them understand your behavior and your questioning, because it could create a lot of trouble in a relationship if the other person doesn’t understand where you are coming from.
You do need to cut down on the questions and nagging behavior, also remember that your new partner has flaws and they are not perfect, they will make mistakes just like you will. So examine each situation with an open mind, and remember to ask yourself I am I really this angry because of the situation at hand, or I am I so angry because this situation reminds me of something that happened to me in the past?
Also, asking for passwords is not a good idea, everybody is entitled to their privacy, as I mentioned, you just have to choose to trust someone. Another helpful tip that I can give you is that try not to jump into conclusions, ask a question and wait for the answer. If they didn’t call you when they said they would, don’t conclude that they are with someone else or somewhere they shouldn’t be, trust me, you will drive yourself crazy if you think like that.
It’s gonna take time and a lot of practice but try as much as you can not to jump into conclusions.
I would also suggest that if you have a trusted friend, that you can run things by, then do it especially if you are having trouble believing the answer your partner has given you, maybe a fresh set of eyes will see things differently, especially if the situation is threatening to break up your relationship.
And finally try to assume that your partner will never hurt you at least not intentionally, also just believe that they love you and they want to be with just you, if you think this way, you will be able to relax and enjoy your relationship, and also you will be able to give the best of you to the partner.
And of course, you must trust yourself first
After all, is said and done, I must encourage you to also trust yourself, if your gut feeling is telling you that this person is not good for you, then just go with your intuition, because sometimes, your gut feeling is right. There was a time I was in a situation where my gut feeling just told me not to get involved with a person, and it turned out my feelings were correct, the person was a creep.
Now I know that maybe you have watched movies on Lifetime channel and they are always portraying online dating as the right place for the killer to find you lol the truth is any form of dating can be dangerous, you just have to be careful, and have your phone ready to call the police at any given time.
But to be honest, how many people have married their high school sweetheart and then the sweetheart turns bitter on them? people do change and you could meet and date someone for a while and they could be the best, and then down the line change. So what I am trying to say is that any kind of dating is a risk, and we are risking our hearts, and even our lives in some cases.
Love is a risk
For example, I as you know, if you’ve been reading my articles, I met my husband online, got married and moved to a different country, look at the risk I took, did I know for sure that he wasn’t the killer? The answer is no because how can you know for sure? but I just took a risk and it paid off.
But it’s not even about meeting online, how many people meet under other circumstance and yet things still go wrong? love is a risk yet it’s one thing we can’t live without, everybody wants to be loved, it’s the greatest feeling in the world, it’s also the greatest pain when things go wrong.
Anyway, I hope you have found this article helpful and I hope you will learn to trust, first yourself and others, I also hope that you will find love and happiness.
Thank you so much for reading, if you have a question or comment, please leave them below and I will do my best to answer you.
Thank you for your time
Rose
