In this article we are going to explore the possibilities for Christian singles to find love online, first we are going to see if Christians should enter the online dating in the first place. But First we must elaborate, because there are many people who identified themselves as Christians but they are not really deep into Christianity.
There are people who were raised as Christians and that makes them identify with Christianity, these kinds of people are not very strict when it comes to faith, and that means they can date people from other religions. Then you have the second group of people who are very deep into the Christian faith and they will not get involved with a non Christian.
Is Christian online dating a form of missionary dating and what is missionary dating?
Although there are some Christians who might do a form of missionary dating, I know now you are wondering what I am talking about please let me explain, a missionary dating is when a Christian person finds a person who could make a good partner but the problem is that they are not Christian so the mission is to convince them to become a Christian.
This is a terrible idea if you ask me. If someone becomes a Christian for a purpose of getting into a relationship with you, that is a bad foundation, because once you get together, they might revert back to how they used to be because they did not choose the Christian way of life in good faith.
The decision to follow this religion or to convert to another, is a personal decision and it can only be made if one really feel the conviction within themselves to go in that direction. So in my humble opinion, if someone is not of the same faith as you are, I think the idea to convert them for your own benefit, is a bad one.
Many Christian refer to the term ”being unequally yoked” when they talk about a Christian and a non believe relationship, and to clarify, it’s not enough to say that you are a Christian, there are many levels of Christianity as well as many denominations, for example if a Catholic person gets involved with an Evangelical Christian, there could be conflict and we could say that they are not equally yoked, because perhaps in some ways, their spiritual ideas are not the same.
This means, they could click and have many things in common, but when it comes to matters of faith, they will differ, now this is not to say that their relationship won’t work, they can find a way to make it work but they might have to refrain from discussing faith, but there could be some problems because the Catholic person does not pray the same way as the Evangelical, the Catholic person needs their candles and icons and rosary beads.
The Evangelical person does not use these things to pray so the Evangelical will have to get used to seeing these things and also get used to hearing a different kind of prayer.
I think when it comes to searching for love and more specifically searching for wife or husband, it’s very important that you be in the same level when it comes to your religion believes because if you are not, it could create lots of trouble, for example Let’s say you meet a Christian Person, and you click and think you are heading in the right direction.
And then you find out that your believes when it comes to matters like intimacy and more specifically sex, you are not in the same page, Let’s say you believe that sex before marriage is a no no and the other person believes that a little drive test before buying won’t hurt, this could create conflict in your relationship. So it’s always wise to get involved with someone who holds the same values as you do.
So is it OK for Christians to join Dating sites?
I think this is a matter of personal decision but I will say that if a Christian wants to dive into the world of online dating, then it’s better to join a Christian dating website because that will increase the chances of meeting like-minded people, of course you must practice caution even on Christian dating sites because being a Christian site does not guarantee that all the people in there are truly Christians,
Always be careful and never send money to anyone even if they tell you it’s for mission trips or if they tell you that God showed them a vision of you sending money, be wise and aware at all times. Deceivers and con artists are everywhere these days, even on Christian dating sites so be careful.
Going back to the question whether Christians should join online dating. I choose to view it this way, there was a young lady who went to church every Sunday and she would cry and pray for a husband, she kept praying and nothing was happening, she would be working the whole week, then go to church on Sunday and pray for God to give her a husband.
Anyway, she finally got bitter and angry and stopped going to Church, then the Pastor of the church met her one day and asked d her why she wasn’t going to church anymore, she told the pastor about her prayers, and how God has chosen to ignore her pleas, the Pastor considered her words for a second and then asked her, after prayers what do you do? I go straight home she answered, then the Pastor asked and what do you do during the Week, I work from morning till evening then I go home.
Then the pastor told her that she needs to put some effort to increase the possibilities of meeting someone, he suggested she could make time and attend singles meetings and other church outings. This lady was doing right by praying but faith without action is dead, so who knows you could find that husband or wife in a singles meeting, or at a church gathering or you could even meet them on a Christian dating website.
The pressures of life and long hours of work, these things are making it harder and harder for people to socialize, and this means that chances of meeting someone the old fashion way are getting slimmer by the day.
I mean these days life has become so busy that people don’t really have time to socialize at all, people are working hard, because everything has become so expensive which means if you want to have a comfortable life you have to work long hours, and since most people are working on their computers these days, it’s easier to communicate with someone without having to leave your office or your place of work.
So it really boils down to you and what you are willing to do to increase your chances of meeting someone, I don’t see anything wrong with connecting with other Christian singles online. Christian dating is different to other kinds of dating because Christians date with the intention of getting married, meaning in Christian dating there is no casual dating and in fact the true deep faith rooted Christians don’t refer to it as dating, they call it courting.
That’s why I am recommending that if you are Christian then it’s better for you to Join a Christian based website because there you will meet people who understand your intention and share the same sentiments as you, and therefore it will be easy to connect and also you can have conversations that are faith based as well as future based.
And this is why I recommend you join ChristianCafe.com because this is a Christian based website and it’s where Christian singles can meet and mingle, since it’s creation in 1999, ChristianCafe has been connecting Christian singles from all over the world for 20 years. Over 25,000 marriages have taken place as a result of ChristianCafe, that’s twenty-five thousand marriages.
So I think you have a very good chance of meeting someone that you could spend the rest of your life with on this site, one of the good things about this site, is the fact that they give you the full access of the site for 10 days for free, meaning once you create your profile, you are allowed to contact any member and have a conversation with them for free, this is something that many dating sites don’t do.
Another cool thing about ChristianCafe.com is that you can choose to upgrade your membership for two weeks, I like this idea because, Let’s say you meet someone during your free 10 day trail period, and Let’s say you want to talk to this person a little more before moving conversation to you private mailing or phone, you can upgrade to two more weeks and then if you are sure about the person then you can move to private conversation.
But if after two weeks you are still not sure, you can go for another two weeks, how cool is that? I mean most dating sites the minimum you can upgrade for is 30 days, so I think this option is really good, I should also mention that if you decide to upgrade for a longer time, the price goes down if you choose the longer period package.
They have different packages up to year, but Let’s hope you won’t stay on the site a whole year without meeting someone, so I say try the free ten days first and then if you like the site, then decide whether you want 2 weeks, 3 months or six months it’s really up to you, I do hope you will enjoy the experience. Create your free account click on the banner below.
Remember to always be careful and to practice caution at all times when communicating with people on dating sites
And don’t forget my safety tips, do not move the conversation from the site too soon and do not under any circumstances send money to anyone. And do not give anyone your bank details, even if they tell you that God has told them to send you some money do not give your bank account details. I want you to be safe and to enjoy your online dating or courtship.
I want to thank you for reading my article and I would like to hear your views on this subject so please leave me a comment, i also would love to hear your experience with your Christian dating, have you tried online dating? did you like it? please let me know. Thank you and Let’s talk some more in the comment section I will be very happy to interact with you.
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